You've broken up with your boyfriend and now, you are ready to
try to cope with the whole situation. You don't want to become one of
those women who always talks about her ex, who obviously hasn't been
able to find a way to move on. Even if deep down, you feel like you
want to be able to get back together with him, you still have to find a
way to cope in a healthy way.
Here are some strategies for coping with a break up with your boyfriend:
1. Delete your ex boyfriend from your Facebook friends list.
Shocking, I know, but having him remain on your friends list is just going to make things harder. You might have the restraint most days not to check up on him, but it is those "low days" when you are most likely going to find yourself creeping over to his page to see what he might be up to and those are the days when you really should not be doing things like that.
2. Take down any pictures that you might have out in the open with you and him together or even just him by himself.
These are going to be reminders of what once was, what could have been, and the guy who is no longer there right now. You don't need those reminders. Not when you are trying to do the right thing and cope with the break up. You don't have to go as far as destroying them, especially if there is a part of you that wants to see if you can win him back, but for now - put them away where they cannot be seen.
3. Schedule yourself a nice girls night out.
You need your friends during the times when you might feel the most down. See if you can round up the girls and schedule a night to go out and have some fun. That might make you take your mind off of the break up AND remind you that all is not lost - you still have your friends that you can rely on. Let them know why, so that no one brings up the topic of "him" so you don't end up droning on and on about him. This is a night to forget about him and just have some fun.
4. Rediscover YOU.
During a relationship, you can easily lose your own identity a little, as you and he become one entity in a sense. This is a chance to rediscover who you are, what you like, what you are really all about. This period of time can actually be kind of fun, because you can learn new things about yourself and discover new hobbies, passions, and interests.
Here are some strategies for coping with a break up with your boyfriend:
1. Delete your ex boyfriend from your Facebook friends list.
Shocking, I know, but having him remain on your friends list is just going to make things harder. You might have the restraint most days not to check up on him, but it is those "low days" when you are most likely going to find yourself creeping over to his page to see what he might be up to and those are the days when you really should not be doing things like that.
2. Take down any pictures that you might have out in the open with you and him together or even just him by himself.
These are going to be reminders of what once was, what could have been, and the guy who is no longer there right now. You don't need those reminders. Not when you are trying to do the right thing and cope with the break up. You don't have to go as far as destroying them, especially if there is a part of you that wants to see if you can win him back, but for now - put them away where they cannot be seen.
3. Schedule yourself a nice girls night out.
You need your friends during the times when you might feel the most down. See if you can round up the girls and schedule a night to go out and have some fun. That might make you take your mind off of the break up AND remind you that all is not lost - you still have your friends that you can rely on. Let them know why, so that no one brings up the topic of "him" so you don't end up droning on and on about him. This is a night to forget about him and just have some fun.
4. Rediscover YOU.
During a relationship, you can easily lose your own identity a little, as you and he become one entity in a sense. This is a chance to rediscover who you are, what you like, what you are really all about. This period of time can actually be kind of fun, because you can learn new things about yourself and discover new hobbies, passions, and interests.
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